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Old March 14th, 2012, 10:59 AM   #11
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When I was school, I was bullied verbally (I was that really fat kid throughout most of my grade school experience). This was before all the "zero tolerance" policies schools started making, so verbal bullying was a pretty insignificant issue in my school. Since I had so few friends, I took the option of running away from the problem and made a deal with my parents that I would be homeschooled instead of going to high school. Lucky me, I got my GED and went to college within two years and never had to worry about being bullied again.



It's strange that as an adult, I can handle confrontation far better than I did as a child. Maybe because my best solution to handling bullies in public school was to throw insults or chairs at them? That's not the kind of thing that usually works when your an adult.


At least both you and your folks had peace of mind when they home-schooled you and you got your GED. I applaud you. You did have time for some P.E. around your place, though? Congrats.



When I got into college, all that bullying went away. They say it is a small world. But when you enter college, you go into a bigger world, but with the doors closed on bullying. I enjoyed college more than I enjoyed school before I went to college. Playing softball was a lot more fun in college than in high school, junior high, and elementary school.



And you are right. Taking matters into your own hands like throwing chairs at bullies would have made matters worse. Only the bullies, who think they are the victim when the police or the principal/vice principal would say, "that guy is crazy. He almost killed me." Yeah, sure. But what about him? Is he really a saint?
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I was bullied very badly while in middle school, and I can say that it has impacted me in many different ways.



First of all, although I went through a very dark period in my life, I can say that I have come out stronger. I know that's not the case with everyone, but it was for me.



Secondly, it was extremely hard. There were days I wouldn't want to go to school for fear I would be bullied. I was both physically, verbally, and cyberbullied. People don't think cyberbullying is a real thing, but it is. I was tormented through email, chat rooms, Facebook, etc. There need to be more laws against it as it can be the worst kind of bullying. You think going home will help, but the bullying is still there. And I know some of you guys will say, "But the kids don't have to check that. They can just log off." Now let's just dissect that. You cannot tell a middle school kid to not think about what's going on in the cyberworld. It just cannot happen. My parents eventually had to step in and intervene and I thank them so much for that.



Parents. If you think, or suspect, your child is being bullied, please talk to them. So many kids have taken their life because of bullying and that shouldn't happen. Ever. A person's life is too precious. Even if they don't want to talk to you, suggest to them to talk to a teacher or counselor. I initially DID NOT want to talk to a counselor because I thought I was "weird" to be doing that. It was the best decision I made. They can help you so much.



Another thing - standing up to the bullies. If even one person takes a stand, it usually helps. The bullies are too cowardly to do something else if enough people try to stop it. The worst thing people can do is join in or just stand by. It only takes one time to stand up and stop it.



Finally, just be there for them. I initially didn't want to tell my parents but once I did, it helped so much. I also found a good outlet for my emotions - songwriting. It has helped me heal. I can finally say that I am through that dark time and I'm ready to take on the world.



Thank you.



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I was bullied very badly while in middle school, and I can say that it has impacted me in many different ways.



First of all, although I went through a very dark period in my life, I can say that I have come out stronger. I know that's not the case with everyone, but it was for me.



Secondly, it was extremely hard. There were days I wouldn't want to go to school for fear I would be bullied. I was both physically, verbally, and cyberbullied. People don't think cyberbullying is a real thing, but it is. I was tormented through email, chat rooms, Facebook, etc. There need to be more laws against it as it can be the worst kind of bullying. You think going home will help, but the bullying is still there. And I know some of you guys will say, "But the kids don't have to check that. They can just log off." Now let's just dissect that. You cannot tell a middle school kid to not think about what's going on in the cyberworld. It just cannot happen. My parents eventually had to step in and intervene and I thank them so much for that.



Parents. If you think, or suspect, your child is being bullied, please talk to them. So many kids have taken their life because of bullying and that shouldn't happen. Ever. A person's life is too precious. Even if they don't want to talk to you, suggest to them to talk to a teacher or counselor. I initially DID NOT want to talk to a counselor because I thought I was "weird" to be doing that. It was the best decision I made. They can help you so much.



Another thing - standing up to the bullies. If even one person takes a stand, it usually helps. The bullies are too cowardly to do something else if enough people try to stop it. The worst thing people can do is join in or just stand by. It only takes one time to stand up and stop it.



Finally, just be there for them. I initially didn't want to tell my parents but once I did, it helped so much. I also found a good outlet for my emotions - songwriting. It has helped me heal. I can finally say that I am through that dark time and I'm ready to take on the world.



Thank you.



Alexandra Brinkley, sophomore.
I used to get bullied a lot, in every way possible, but that was just because everyone was jealous of how I was the smartest person around and also a nationally ranked athlete: don't let lesser beings get into your head, just ignore them or if necessary show how you are better than them. That was how I dealt with it.
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I was bullied very badly while in middle school, and I can say that it has impacted me in many different ways.



First of all, although I went through a very dark period in my life, I can say that I have come out stronger. I know that's not the case with everyone, but it was for me.



Secondly, it was extremely hard. There were days I wouldn't want to go to school for fear I would be bullied. I was both physically, verbally, and cyberbullied. People don't think cyberbullying is a real thing, but it is. I was tormented through email, chat rooms, Facebook, etc. There need to be more laws against it as it can be the worst kind of bullying. You think going home will help, but the bullying is still there. And I know some of you guys will say, "But the kids don't have to check that. They can just log off." Now let's just dissect that. You cannot tell a middle school kid to not think about what's going on in the cyberworld. It just cannot happen. My parents eventually had to step in and intervene and I thank them so much for that.



Parents. If you think, or suspect, your child is being bullied, please talk to them. So many kids have taken their life because of bullying and that shouldn't happen. Ever. A person's life is too precious. Even if they don't want to talk to you, suggest to them to talk to a teacher or counselor. I initially DID NOT want to talk to a counselor because I thought I was "weird" to be doing that. It was the best decision I made. They can help you so much.



Another thing - standing up to the bullies. If even one person takes a stand, it usually helps. The bullies are too cowardly to do something else if enough people try to stop it. The worst thing people can do is join in or just stand by. It only takes one time to stand up and stop it.



Finally, just be there for them. I initially didn't want to tell my parents but once I did, it helped so much. I also found a good outlet for my emotions - songwriting. It has helped me heal. I can finally say that I am through that dark time and I'm ready to take on the world.



Thank you.



Alexandra Brinkley, sophomore.


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Thank you for joining Defending the Truth



I appreciate that you shared your story with us. I myself was bullied in middle school as I was a very quiet student... It was very stressful and I felt if I complained about it, the bullying would only get worse... I literally bottled up my stress for many years and I absolutely hated going to school. It affected my grades, social skills, and so forth.



When I entered highschool I decided to be more social and I ended up making a lot of friends. However I was still under stress in having to deal with some students who were disrespectful to others. Highschool was okay but I feel if I wasn't bullied in middle school, I probably would have enjoyed the public school system and learned a lot more.



When I entered college, I basically told myself I need to change my ways..I cannot go through college the same way I went through highschool. I decided to open up with everybody and that really helped. Sure there were some a-holes, but standing up for myself went a long way. I ended up making a ton of friends and if someone were to crack a joke about another friend, I would get involved and stand up for them. I earned my Bachelors degree in college and graduated on the Dean's list all semesters. The bullies I remember from middle school and high school are typically found at the bars and they look MUCH older now. I'm sure they haven't made the best decisions in life which may have a relationship with their decisions made while in middle/highschool.



Overall, I would say having a good base of friends, and the right friends, really helped me surpass my fears of being bullied. When you don't have a lot of friends, you feel that you are alone and bullying can really push you over the edge. I am glad our schools are finally standing up to bullying by suspending or expelling students who commit those acts against others. In the 90's, there really was no action taken against bullying. But now, things have changed and I'm glad they have. It's unfortunate that some have taken measures of committing suicide to bring this awareness...



Keep your head up, hang with the right crowd, and remember...bullies will likely end up in jail or worse later on in life. If they want to be a-holes to others, well then karma will come back to bite them in the ass.



Thank you for sharing you story... I hope mine has given some insight.



-Jonathan Kingsbury
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I was bullied very badly while in middle school, and I can say that it has impacted me in many different ways.



First of all, although I went through a very dark period in my life, I can say that I have come out stronger. I know that's not the case with everyone, but it was for me.



Secondly, it was extremely hard. There were days I wouldn't want to go to school for fear I would be bullied. I was both physically, verbally, and cyberbullied. People don't think cyberbullying is a real thing, but it is. I was tormented through email, chat rooms, Facebook, etc. There need to be more laws against it as it can be the worst kind of bullying. You think going home will help, but the bullying is still there. And I know some of you guys will say, "But the kids don't have to check that. They can just log off." Now let's just dissect that. You cannot tell a middle school kid to not think about what's going on in the cyberworld. It just cannot happen. My parents eventually had to step in and intervene and I thank them so much for that.



Parents. If you think, or suspect, your child is being bullied, please talk to them. So many kids have taken their life because of bullying and that shouldn't happen. Ever. A person's life is too precious. Even if they don't want to talk to you, suggest to them to talk to a teacher or counselor. I initially DID NOT want to talk to a counselor because I thought I was "weird" to be doing that. It was the best decision I made. They can help you so much.



Another thing - standing up to the bullies. If even one person takes a stand, it usually helps. The bullies are too cowardly to do something else if enough people try to stop it. The worst thing people can do is join in or just stand by. It only takes one time to stand up and stop it.



Finally, just be there for them. I initially didn't want to tell my parents but once I did, it helped so much. I also found a good outlet for my emotions - songwriting. It has helped me heal. I can finally say that I am through that dark time and I'm ready to take on the world.



Thank you.



Alexandra Brinkley, sophomore.


Dear Alexandra Brinkley,



Thank you for joining Defending the Truth



I appreciate that you shared your story with us. I myself was bullied in middle school as I was a very quiet student... It was very stressful and I felt if I complained about it, the bullying would only get worse... I literally bottled up my stress for many years and I absolutely hated going to school. It affected my grades, social skills, and so forth.



When I entered highschool I decided to be more social and I ended up making a lot of friends. However I was still under stress in having to deal with some students who were disrespectful to others. Highschool was okay but I feel if I wasn't bullied in middle school, I probably would have enjoyed the public school system and learned a lot more.



When I entered college, I basically told myself I need to change my ways..I cannot go through college the same way I went through highschool. I decided to open up with everybody and that really helped. Sure there were some a-holes, but standing up for myself went a long way. I ended up making a ton of friends and if someone were to crack a joke about another friend, I would get involved and stand up for them. I earned my Bachelors degree in college and graduated on the Dean's list all semesters. The bullies I remember from middle school and high school are typically found at the bars and they look MUCH older now. I'm sure they haven't made the best decisions in life which may have a relationship with their decisions made while in middle/highschool.



Overall, I would say having a good base of friends, and the right friends, really helped me surpass my fears of being bullied. When you don't have a lot of friends, you feel that you are alone and bullying can really push you over the edge. I am glad our schools are finally standing up to bullying by suspending or expelling students who commit those acts against others. In the 90's, there really was no action taken against bullying. But now, things have changed and I'm glad they have. It's unfortunate that some have taken measures of committing suicide to bring this awareness...



Keep your head up, hang with the right crowd, and remember...bullies will likely end up in jail or worse later on in life. If they want to be a-holes to others, well then karma will come back to bite them in the ass.



Thank you for sharing you story... I hope mine has given some insight.



-Jonathan Kingsbury


Alexandra, Jonathan (your names sound SO danged formal ), thanks for sharing your stories.



As you know, Jon, I'm old school, old dude, 63. Things really were different back then. Adults let boys "work things out" and the "bad guys," the bullies were well-known. We, the "good guys" stuck together and I intervened physically for the weaker, more shy or brainy guys more than once as did all the "good guys." The system worked, no one was shot or stabbed, even the bullies fought "fair."



And girls? Bullying between girls was virtually unheard of. But then, so were divorced parents and teenage sex.....



Another time, for sure.



What I'm reading between the lines here is that the "good guys" and "good girls" are once again sticking together. This is an excellent sign, excellent for society, and for our nation ... and world really. No, I don't think I'm being melodramatic here, though I do tend to do that sometimes.



Anyway, again thanks y'all. This thread shows just how high forum posting can reach.
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Great posts people! I was bullied in middle and high school because I was so terrible at sports. I HATED PE. Other kids would get so damn angry when I would strike out, miss a lay-up, or act clueless in football. It definitely affected by studies as I hated school - a pity since I am very intelligent.



I made up for it in college though. I had a blast in college, had lots of friends, and did well in my classes. I managed to get a degree in Electrical Engineering.



Nowadays, the only sport I like to participate in is golf.
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I was bullied very badly while in middle school, and I can say that it has impacted me in many different ways.



First of all, although I went through a very dark period in my life, I can say that I have come out stronger. I know that's not the case with everyone, but it was for me.



Secondly, it was extremely hard. There were days I wouldn't want to go to school for fear I would be bullied. I was both physically, verbally, and cyberbullied. People don't think cyberbullying is a real thing, but it is. I was tormented through email, chat rooms, Facebook, etc. There need to be more laws against it as it can be the worst kind of bullying. You think going home will help, but the bullying is still there. And I know some of you guys will say, "But the kids don't have to check that. They can just log off." Now let's just dissect that. You cannot tell a middle school kid to not think about what's going on in the cyberworld. It just cannot happen. My parents eventually had to step in and intervene and I thank them so much for that.



Parents. If you think, or suspect, your child is being bullied, please talk to them. So many kids have taken their life because of bullying and that shouldn't happen. Ever. A person's life is too precious. Even if they don't want to talk to you, suggest to them to talk to a teacher or counselor. I initially DID NOT want to talk to a counselor because I thought I was "weird" to be doing that. It was the best decision I made. They can help you so much.



Another thing - standing up to the bullies. If even one person takes a stand, it usually helps. The bullies are too cowardly to do something else if enough people try to stop it. The worst thing people can do is join in or just stand by. It only takes one time to stand up and stop it.



Finally, just be there for them. I initially didn't want to tell my parents but once I did, it helped so much. I also found a good outlet for my emotions - songwriting. It has helped me heal. I can finally say that I am through that dark time and I'm ready to take on the world.



Thank you.



Alexandra Brinkley, sophomore.


Great suggestions. I was bullied as a child too I think many have tried this, for me it was mostly as a teen. My experience has also been that the best way to deal with bullying is finding support and standing up to them. I was initially told to ignore them, but that has never worked for me and often made things worse. I think bullying is a powerplay of someone who feels bad inside and get their bad feelings out on others perhaps in a way to run from them or elevate themselves over others.



I think many bullys despite seing weakness in others as it reminds them of their own. In school I was an easy target, but after being bullied I made a great effort to strengthen the points I was attacked on and that seemed to work though it took time.



I also at times fought back, not a solution I recommend though it worked far better for me than trying to ignore it, and also than going to parent and teachers who unfortunately in my case only made the problem worse. In looking back I believe that it was what I learned which made me confident enough to no longer be a easy target. It was bullied a lot, but eventually I had enough and it motivated me to do something about it.



I suppose I agree that ignoring it is the best solution if it works, but it often don't. Secondly I would try to talk to/stand up to the bully seeking their human side if this is possible or like you talk to someone. If all this fails it may be necessary to change location or work to become a tougher target and as a last resort fight back.



I admire your courage in what you share and your wisdom in your insight, you seem to stand much stronger than I did when I was your age. And by the way welcome
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Yeah, I stood up to them and fought them if I had to. Then I stood up for the other people being bullied around me. And the bullying losers decided they didn't like my beating their asses and making their lives miserable. One of the worst girls in the bulying department, I had obeying my instruction to put her head down when she saw me. She thought she was going to bully me and she learned the hard way that she was going to have to change her behavior and not the other way around.
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