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Old May 6th, 2013, 04:04 PM   #31
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I was bullied very badly while in middle school, and I can say that it has impacted me in many different ways.



First of all, although I went through a very dark period in my life, I can say that I have come out stronger. I know that's not the case with everyone, but it was for me.



Secondly, it was extremely hard. There were days I wouldn't want to go to school for fear I would be bullied. I was both physically, verbally, and cyberbullied. People don't think cyberbullying is a real thing, but it is. I was tormented through email, chat rooms, Facebook, etc. There need to be more laws against it as it can be the worst kind of bullying. You think going home will help, but the bullying is still there. And I know some of you guys will say, "But the kids don't have to check that. They can just log off." Now let's just dissect that. You cannot tell a middle school kid to not think about what's going on in the cyberworld. It just cannot happen. My parents eventually had to step in and intervene and I thank them so much for that.



Parents. If you think, or suspect, your child is being bullied, please talk to them. So many kids have taken their life because of bullying and that shouldn't happen. Ever. A person's life is too precious. Even if they don't want to talk to you, suggest to them to talk to a teacher or counselor. I initially DID NOT want to talk to a counselor because I thought I was "weird" to be doing that. It was the best decision I made. They can help you so much.



Another thing - standing up to the bullies. If even one person takes a stand, it usually helps. The bullies are too cowardly to do something else if enough people try to stop it. The worst thing people can do is join in or just stand by. It only takes one time to stand up and stop it.



Finally, just be there for them. I initially didn't want to tell my parents but once I did, it helped so much. I also found a good outlet for my emotions - songwriting. It has helped me heal. I can finally say that I am through that dark time and I'm ready to take on the world.



Thank you.



Alexandra Brinkley, sophomore.
Im sorry, its nothing against you personally but what your saying has been said so many times before and I can honestly tell you that what your saying is so bullshit. First off, I'd like to first tell you from the bottom of my heart that I know that feel, where they tease you for seemingly no reason at all. And I can tell you that telling your parents, and all that other who-ha is so unneeded. Here is an idea, if someone is talking smack, just call them pathetic for wasting there breath on insulting you since you don't care what there meager and pointless opinions are. Of course, you would need to grow a thick skin since its imperative that you don't really care, if you do then its not going to stop.

Secondly, please don't act as though because you were physically bullied that you've got it oh so bad, its quite frankly ignorant. Physical bullying is a common thing. If you cant learn to roll your fist into a ball and punch them back then there is no point in trying to resolve this issue at all. People say violence is not the answer but it sure as hell is the problem, and to be fair thick heads don't get it any other way, hence why they are in that position to begin with. Usually it doesn't even need to come to that. The easiest way I fixed it was this; when the kid came up and physically assaulted me, I'd simply look them in the eye, step back into the position I was standing in and say nothing. Usually the conflict isn't even needed, they weren't expecting you to stand up for yourself ALL BY YOURSELF, which is why they chose you for a reason. If it comes to fighting, give 'em a few good hits, even if you loose the fight they'll still learn to understand there not going to get a rile out of you without a black eye in the process and figure its not worth it when there is plenty of other suitable people to bully.


I've digressed a bit but the point is that if you don't like what somebody says tell them to piss off. If they hit you, hit them back. Laws wont help, or have we forgot just about every other thing we've tried to patch up by simply banning it (funny how that works out)? Being soft on an a-hole is what created the problem in the first place, so I sincerely doubt that any talking will help that much either, and this is from personal experience.
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Old July 8th, 2013, 12:00 PM   #32
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Maybe its old fashion but I was raised to defend myself. If I was bullied, I was to fight back and win the fight otherwise I'd be in a lot more pain once I got home. Now that didn't hurt me at all... I am gentle as an adult and it takes a lot for me to get angry or physical. I wonder if more kids would stand up and FIGHT back, maybe the bullying problem wouldn't be so bad... But it seems like now, educators and parents are more interested in sending the bullied kid to a specialist and pumping their developing bodies full of nonsense drugs... strange times we live in...
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Old July 8th, 2013, 02:56 PM   #33
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Teach your kid to fight. Bullies don't like opposition.
No kid came ever away unscathed if they tried to pick on me. It came down to "Talk to my fist." Now???? It's "Talk to my lawyer!"
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The problem is, kids can't defend themselves these days, or they get into trouble for it.

Case in point, my youngest son -- a middle-schooler -- is already built like a bulldozer. He could cream any kid in his school, and then probably walk over to the high school and cream any kid there too.

But, he has a kind heart and a sensitive nature. And the last time he did actually take action to defend himself and knock a bully on his ass, he's the one who got into trouble for it.

So, some of the little jerks at school love to pick on him. Because his soft-heartedness makes him an easy target, and they know that even though he could piledrive them, if he ever lifts a finger, he'll be the one in trouble.
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The problem is, kids can't defend themselves these days, or they get into trouble for it.

Case in point, my youngest son -- a middle-schooler -- is already built like a bulldozer. He could cream any kid in his school, and then probably walk over to the high school and cream any kid there too.

But, he has a kind heart and a sensitive nature. And the last time he did actually take action to defend himself and knock a bully on his ass, he's the one who got into trouble for it.

So, some of the little jerks at school love to pick on him. Because his soft-heartedness makes him an easy target, and they know that even though he could piledrive them, if he ever lifts a finger, he'll be the one in trouble.
It's insane.
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It's insane.
My grandkids tell me that bullying of a physical nature basically doesn't happen in their schools at all. The teachers are really good at suppressing that. And this encompasses from K thru grade 6 for them so far. But there is still the social bullying as in cliques. Not being allowed to hang out with the cool kids. Never getting picked for the pick-up teams at recess and so on. That is something that the teachers can't control. But the kids need some self confidence and inner steel, effectively to shed the victim mentality or they will suffer well into adulthood and I'm not sure a teacher can teach that. That has to come from parents or peers.
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The problem is, kids can't defend themselves these days, or they get into trouble for it.

Case in point, my youngest son -- a middle-schooler -- is already built like a bulldozer. He could cream any kid in his school, and then probably walk over to the high school and cream any kid there too.

But, he has a kind heart and a sensitive nature. And the last time he did actually take action to defend himself and knock a bully on his ass, he's the one who got into trouble for it.

So, some of the little jerks at school love to pick on him. Because his soft-heartedness makes him an easy target, and they know that even though he could piledrive them, if he ever lifts a finger, he'll be the one in trouble.
This'll work: threaten to sue the teachers. They will say "Go ahead. Sue the school, if you want." Then reply with..."No...I said sue YOU!"

The penny will drop and they will do something about the bullying...
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My grandkids tell me that bullying of a physical nature basically doesn't happen in their schools at all. The teachers are really good at suppressing that. And this encompasses from K thru grade 6 for them so far. But there is still the social bullying as in cliques. Not being allowed to hang out with the cool kids. Never getting picked for the pick-up teams at recess and so on. That is something that the teachers can't control. But the kids need some self confidence and inner steel, effectively to shed the victim mentality or they will suffer well into adulthood and I'm not sure a teacher can teach that. That has to come from parents or peers.
Kids will always form cliques, and there will always be a group who think they are all that.

I guess about all one can do, is remind children that once school is over, and everybody moves into the adult world -- having been "cool" in school will mean less than nothing.

Oftentimes, the guy who was "cool" in school ends up being an overweight alcoholic languishing in a trailer park, while the "geek" he made fun of back then is pulling in a huge salary and has a smoking hot wife.
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if you're kid is worried about getting in trouble for standing up to a bully, tell them, "it's ok, there are worse things than getting in trouble at school. one of them is letting a bully get away with violence."
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I always told and still tell my kids that they have to fight back but never hit first. And to stand up for the other people who are too afraid to stand up for themselves.
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