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Old March 28th, 2012, 03:52 PM   #51
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Here's hoping the topic comes back to focusing more on bullying



Found this article in People : "Confessions of a Bully"



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The teasing began in fifth grade, after Daniel Harrison and a neighborhood pal had a growth spurt and Courtney Kondor did not. "We were taller and just naturally started making fun of her," says Daniel, now 15 and a sophomore at Mattawan High School, near Kalamazoo, Mich. "When she didn't do anything about it, we drove in more and more. Like I would see her in the school hallways and shout, 'Hey, shorty!'" By seventh grade, on the school bus, "I used to mess up Courtney's hair," Daniel says, while his pal continued to provide the laugh track. "It felt cool to not be made fun of and to be the one making the fun." At no point did he think of himself as a "mean bully," he says. "I thought of myself as a playful bully: I bullied with a smile on my face."



One morning in December 2007 Daniel ramped up the bus "fun" by snatching a hat from Courtney's head. Daniel tossed it to his sidekick, who passed it to another girl the two boys liked to tease, who in turn threw it back to Daniel. "I put the hat down my pants," he says, then clarifies, "Uh, the front. It wasn't under my boxers." As he got off the bus, Daniel says he noticed that "Courtney was devastated" and realized that he'd gone "definitely a little too far." The next morning he was summoned by his middle school dean to talk with-and apologize to-Courtney. He was also told to report to detention the following day. None of that made much of an impression on Daniel. "I was worried about getting grounded," he says. "I wasn't worried about hurting Courtney's feelings."



Then his parents received a phone call from the dean. Until that moment, the worst his mom, Yvette Harrison, a juvenile probation officer, and dad, Stanley, an electrician, had heard about the younger of their two sons was that he was a "class clown" and a charmer. "I was furious with Daniel," his mom recalls. "I was embarrassed. Where did I go wrong in raising him?" She grounded Daniel from playing his beloved video games for two weeks and insisted they go over to the Kondors' house to apologize. "Daniel was very nervous," she says, "but he didn't fight me on it."



There, Daniel came face-to-face with not only Courtney but her mother, Kim Kondor, whom Daniel had known for years. "As soon as Courtney's mother came to the door, we could see the anger on her face," Daniel's mom says. Kondor accepted Daniel's apology, then described how Courtney had returned from school the previous day "crying so bad she couldn't hardly get the story out." And that wasn't the only day Courtney had come home upset. "It was really shocking," says Daniel. "I thought it was, like, hurting her feelings that day and then moving on."



In detention the next day, Daniel chanced upon Ben Mikaelsen's Touching Spirit Bear. "It was just perfect timing to read that book," he says of the story about an angry teen who torments a white bear. The following school year, assigned by his language-arts teacher Laurie Hogan-McLean to send a letter to an author describing how a particular book had proved inspiring, Daniel wrote to Mikaelsen that, while reading Bear, "I realized who I was, and I hated it." A few months later his letter took top state honors in the national Letters About Literature contest. "Daniel opened a door to help kids reflect," says Hogan-McLean.



Today Daniel is a leader in his school's chapter of Peace-Jam, a nationwide student organization that studies the deeds of Nobel Peace Prize laureates. With Courtney, 15, Daniel says, he gave her "the power" to choose what would become of their relationship. "If she wanted to kick me out of her life, so be it." Her choice: to resume their friendship. And he has become a champion of those in need. "I always end up befriending the people being bullied," he says. "It's satisfying to help people out."




I found the involvement of Courtney's mother essential in solving the situation. This article also demonstrates that there is often a divide between bullies who don't understand that their "jokes" are hurtful and bullies who know exactly what their doing and want to be hurtful.
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Yet another thread that has been pulled off topic (bullying) and on to homosexual marriage..........


Funny how you were fully engaged in the debate and only started complaining when you had your intellectual a** handed to you.


Indeed.
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I was angry and young and living a really crappy life when I was a young teen. But I took that anger and I stood up for people against the bullies, even if I ended up having to fight them. It was a better channel than acting out or bullying others, because of my pain.
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I was angry and young and living a really crappy life when I was a young teen. But I took that anger and I stood up for people against the bullies, even if I ended up having to fight them. It was a better channel than acting out or bullying others, because of my pain.
I spent my entire 3rd grade all the way up to 7th bullied and having few friends. I've always hated bullies and I stood up against them, though sometimes I had enjoyed making THEM feel foolish

at times. Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.
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Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.




I know the feeling........
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Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.




I know the feeling........
Yeah, except you were probably on the other side of the coin in this particular situation.
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Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.




I know the feeling........
Yeah, except you were probably on the other side of the coin in this particular situation.

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Other kids always picked on me because I was much smarter, more athletic and far better looking than any of them.



It's a cross I've had to carry all my life
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[quote name='gary' timestamp='1333068481' post='392898']

[quote name='locke23' timestamp='1332982024' post='392528']

Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.




I know the feeling........
Yeah, except you were probably on the other side of the coin in this particular situation.

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Other kids always picked on me because I was much smarter, more athletic and far better looking than any of them.



It's a cross I've had to carry all my life

[/quote]Is that why you pick on Shrekk and knowuryder? Or Ghost and myself? If so, then that's pitiful. What sports did you play?
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[quote name='locke23' timestamp='1333068844' post='392900']

[quote name='gary' timestamp='1333068481' post='392898']

[quote name='locke23' timestamp='1332982024' post='392528']

Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.




I know the feeling........
Yeah, except you were probably on the other side of the coin in this particular situation.

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Other kids always picked on me because I was much smarter, more athletic and far better looking than any of them.



It's a cross I've had to carry all my life

[/quote]Is that why you pick on Shrekk and knowuryder? Or Ghost and myself? If so, then that's pitiful. What sports did you play?

[/quote]



I don't pick on any of you, I try to impart some wisdom and knowledge.



Football, rugby, cricket, table-tennis and athletics.
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[quote name='gary' timestamp='1333069211' post='392901']

[quote name='locke23' timestamp='1333068844' post='392900']

[quote name='gary' timestamp='1333068481' post='392898']

[quote name='locke23' timestamp='1332982024' post='392528']

Intriguing, how I was the kindest, the most athletic, and the smartest........... but was punished for it.




I know the feeling........
Yeah, except you were probably on the other side of the coin in this particular situation.

[/quote]





Other kids always picked on me because I was much smarter, more athletic and far better looking than any of them.



It's a cross I've had to carry all my life

[/quote]Is that why you pick on Shrekk and knowuryder? Or Ghost and myself? If so, then that's pitiful. What sports did you play?

[/quote]



I don't pick on any of you, I try to impart some wisdom and knowledge.



Football, rugby, cricket, table-tennis and athletics.

[/quote]Athletics? Any sport is considered athletics. You never have any useful "wisdom" for me, there are few that have anything to teach me. Also, you seem to

try to only anger people with pointless, harmful jokes and rude comments. I played Basketball - in the top 30 of nationally ranked, soccer - #1 goalkeeper in the province,

Track and field - #1 hurdler and long jumper in province.
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