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Old December 11th, 2017, 06:37 AM   #11
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I pretty much agree with you. BUT, you need to remember that women/girls are also adept at the "playing hard to get routine." A frown, a initial polite decline of a drink, CAN be misinterpreted as that.
A "I'll stab you in the throat" or "move that hand or lose it" CANNOT be.
If the man acts offended, tough shit, he'll get over it. Women have been known to give mixed signals.

I saw a comedy routine on HBO some time ago, I think it was one of the guys from the "Blue Collar Comedy" group, that dealt with differences in communication styles between the genders.
He held up a red STOP sign and said, "you see this, a man designed it." "Big red sign with large white letters saying STOP." "no confusing what's expected of you."
Then he turned it around and said "this is what you'd probably see if a woman has designed it." The back of the sign said. "If you cared anything at all about me and my feelings you'd know what I want you to do right now."

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LOL! I think a large part of the problem is that women have been taught since the beginning of time to....Be Polite, Be Nice and Do Not Offend! This is easily taken as 'mixed signals'.

I understand that wives and long term girlfriends will expect a man to 'know what they want' (for the life of me I do not understand why) but at the same time, there are many men who simply ignore signals and then act offended when they get snapped at and consider the woman a bitch and themselves a 'victim'.

I expected that, as I got older, men like that would become less of a problem. That has not proven to be the case. I can count a dozen men just this year who consider themselves a 'victim' of my bitchiness. Oh well. They'll either get over it or they'll die unhappy.
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Old December 11th, 2017, 06:40 AM   #12
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Doesnít matter what rules anyone makes, women will always get away with playing the victim.
What would you call someone who has been, against her will, grabbed and forced into an unwanted embrace?
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Old December 11th, 2017, 07:02 AM   #13
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LOL! I think a large part of the problem is that women have been taught since the beginning of time to....Be Polite, Be Nice and Do Not Offend! This is easily taken as 'mixed signals'.

I understand that wives and long term girlfriends will expect a man to 'know what they want' (for the life of me I do not understand why) but at the same time, there are many men who simply ignore signals and then act offended when they get snapped at and consider the woman a bitch and themselves a 'victim'.

I expected that, as I got older, men like that would become less of a problem. That has not proven to be the case. I can count a dozen men just this year who consider themselves a 'victim' of my bitchiness. Oh well. They'll either get over it or they'll die unhappy.
The world is a harsh and tough place. If women are to be out in that world, as in business, the military, politics, etc. etc. THEY need to learn to be harsher and tougher, because the world is not going to change to accommodate them to any great degree.

It can be a confusing situation. There is NO "one size fits all" approach when it comes to women/men relations. Chances have to be taken, on both sides. Yes, as a general rule kindness, respect and courtesy is always the best way.
But there will always be the women who want "their man" to be in touch with his "feminine side", take flower arranging classes with her and wear cry over "chick flicks" with her. Just as there will be women who will insist a "real man" takes what he wants and is assertive and aggressive in all areas.
Humans come in a insane amount of variety.
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What would you call someone who has been, against her will, grabbed and forced into an unwanted embrace?
Iíve never said there are not real female victims
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Old December 11th, 2017, 07:06 AM   #15
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The world is a harsh and tough place. If women are to be out in that world, as in business, the military, politics, etc. etc. THEY need to learn to be harsher and tougher, because the world is not going to change to accommodate them to any great degree.

It can be a confusing situation. There is NO "one size fits all" approach when it comes to women/men relations. Chances have to be taken, on both sides. Yes, as a general rule kindness, respect and courtesy is always the best way.
But there will always be the women who want "their man" to be in touch with his "feminine side", take flower arranging classes with her and wear cry over "chick flicks" with her. Just as there will be women who will insist a "real man" takes what he wants and is assertive and aggressive in all areas.
Humans come in a insane amount of variety.
I totally agree. I've been called a bitch so often I've adopted it as a nickname.

BTW.....My favorite chick flick is Terminator.
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Iíve never said there are not real female victims
Given your 'get away with' preface, you'll have to clarify just what qualifies as a 'real female victim' to your mind.
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I totally agree. I've been called a bitch so often I've adopted it as a nickname.

BTW.....My favorite chick flick is Terminator.
You and I would get along just fine in real life.

My 1st wife made me go with her to see "Love Story" that had just come out when we were first dating. That was probably late summer of 1970 or so, I'd just transferred from active to reserve duty and came home.
It was so horrible I thought it was a comedy and chuckled through most of it. She was pissed at me for the rest of the night.
STILL gag when I think of that movie. "Pretty Woman" may have been as bad.
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You and I would get along just fine in real life.

My 1st wife made me go with her to see "Love Story" that had just come out when we were first dating. That was probably late summer of 1970 or so, I'd just transferred from active to reserve duty and came home.
It was so horrible I thought it was a comedy and chuckled through most of it. She was pissed at me for the rest of the night.
STILL gag when I think of that movie. "Pretty Woman" may have been as bad.
Not to mention Titanic! BARF! My SIL insisted I watch it with her. Luckily for me I had dinner cooking. Never in the history of cooking has a roast needed to be checked on so many times.
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Not to mention Titanic! BARF! My SIL insisted I watch it with her. Luckily for me I had dinner cooking. Never in the history of cooking has a roast needed to be checked on so many times.
Agreed!! I was happy to see Leo DiCaprio become a talented actor later in life. But that movie SUCKED, for 12 year old girls only.
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Agreed!! I was happy to see Leo DiCaprio become a talented actor later in life. But that movie SUCKED, for 12 year old girls only.
Amen! Give me any of the Tremors movies (except #5) any day.
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