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Old March 24th, 2018, 06:42 PM   #1
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Sorry, Rick Santorum: Single Moms Aren’t to Blame for Gun Violence

Wonderful post about solo mothers in this country, by a woman who studies this issue. Not an opinion piece by morons. Dont be scared Sabcat, you can click the link, i promise

Well, i better add some paragraphs so Sabs might feel safe enough to participate.....

Sorry, Rick Santorum: Single Moms Aren't to Blame for Gun Violence - Ms. Magazine Blog

Sorry, Rick Santorum: Single Moms Aren’t to Blame for Gun Violence
March 23, 2018 by Marika Lindholm

***Blame for the February 14 shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida has been cast in many directions—at the NRA and the politicians it funds, at our shaky support system for those with mental illness, at the FBI and the officers on the scene. I was outraged, but sadly not that surprised, when a political commentator found another group to blame for the tragedy: single mothers.***

***“The fact that these kids come from broken homes without dads,” said former senator Rick Santorum on CNN, is a “commonality” that explains why a young man would enter his former school and shoot up his classmates and teachers.
In fact, as was well reported, the Parkland shooter, Nikolas Cruz, was adopted at a young age into a two-parent family; his father died in 2004, and his mother died suddenly late last year. But Santorum has a long history of single-mom bashing that’s untethered to the truth—“we are seeing the fabric of this country fall apart, and it’s falling apart because of single moms,” he reportedly said at a 1994 town hall meeting—and he’s not the only one. On TV and in the media, single moms are often portrayed as a problem to be solved. According to the storylines and commentaries, they’re clueless, irresponsible, lazy, morally lax and unable to stop having children. They mooch off of social welfare programs, the persistent stereotype goes, and would rather have more babies than hold down a job.

As founder of ESME.com (Empowering Solo Mothers Everywhere), I can say without reservation that the stereotypes about single moms are not true. Over one million Solo Moms, as we call them, have visited or connected on our site, app and, 75 local Facebook groups. Our surveys and interactions show that most of them are employed, hard-working, have just one child and are utterly dedicated to their child or children. Their struggles are born not from carelessness, but from divorce, abandonment, death of a spouse and other hardships. And rather than sitting back and waiting for the government to take care of them, single moms are weaving their own safety net.***

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***The single mothers we’ve surveyed report struggling with depression, domestic violence, unemployment, public assistance, addiction and sexual abuse. Single moms are vulnerable to hunger and homelessness, and they’re often one health crisis away from poverty. A chorus of confidential chat rooms and Facebook groups, especially those focusing on domestic violence, reveal painful realities that no woman or child should have to endure. Our current historical moment, when social supports such as Medicaid, food stamps and healthcare are at risk, is incredibly frightening for single mothers. They extend themselves in ways that boggle the mind, but they can’t stay afloat based on mutual generosity.

Contrary to popular belief, however, single moms are not the cause of poverty or social ills. “Even if all single mothers married or never had children, poverty would not be substantially lower,” a research team recently explained in the New York Times. Yet in their fervor to absolve single moms and focus on anti-poverty policy, the authors underplayed the prominence of the single mom demographic. Teen pregnancy and divorce rates are down—but single motherhood, in all its hardship and glory, is here to stay. Demographers predict that in a few short years, half of all American kids under age 18 will be raised by a single mom at some point in their childhood.***

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***And despite what we’re shown on TV, single motherhood doesn’t usually result from teens who didn’t know any better. Women often end up single moms because of men’s physical and emotional abuse, drug addiction, incarceration, deployment, or decision to leave. Abandonment and failure to pay child support plunge women into poverty and hardship. Yet, strikingly, men are almost completely absent from the national dialogue about single mothers. When commentators rail against the “problem” of single motherhood, they erase men from the equation.

A tragic example is the high rate of divorce among couples who have a child with special needs. Women overwhelmingly bear the burden of care for all children, but caring for a child with special needs profoundly limits a woman’s ability to further her education or take part in the labor market. As a sociologist, I knew about the challenges of abusive relationships and the loss of income after divorce, but I was blindsided by the number of moms who are raising children with special needs on their own. The most common story? Dad couldn’t take it and split.

Obviously, there are wonderful ex-husbands and other men who step up, but vilifying single mothers and not the fathers who contributed to their predicament is unfair and sexist. Moreover, treating marriage as a cure-all only makes sense in a world in which men participate in childcare; men and women are hired, paid and promoted at the same rates; husbands don’t abuse or abandon their wives; and men don’t fall prey to drugs and alcohol. As a society, we need to spend less time putting down solo moms and take a closer look at why so many men fail to live up to their obligations.

I think I know why single mothers receive the brunt of the blame for poverty and social ills: because portraying them as undeserving and morally flawed makes it easier to justify denying them and their children benefits. As long as our national collective conscience continues to frame single moms as unworthy, we will feel absolved of the responsibility to help them do right by their children.

As a nation, we need to honor and support their heroic effort to raise 23 million American children. If those of us with greater resources were as generous as most single moms, we would build an impressive web of support. The #MeToo movement upended a painful history of victim blaming. Society’s newfound generosity of spirit now must extend to single moms.***

There, is that enough "blurbs" for you? damn near the whole article so i hope so, ffs......
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We recently had a long thread on this. It was pretty well shown that that isn't even a valid generalization.
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We recently had a long thread on this. It was pretty well shown that that isn't even a valid generalization.
There is direct correlation between single family households and crime. The majority of single parent households the parent is a woman. Also a majority of these school shooters came from single family homes.

These leftists keep crying "guns!!! Guns!!! Guns!!" But do not wish to try and find what is behind these issues. Guns are an inanimate object. A tool. There is a reason why this happens. Now, is it because they are a product of the single mother plague? No. I do not believe that is the only thing driving these murderers but i do think that it is a problem that should be addresses. To just dismiss it is unwise just as the gun grabbers do not wish to look at the fact that the majority (if not all) are on some sort 9f prescription drugs like SSRIs
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omigod.
What a shocker!
Rick Santorum being wrong about something!?!?
Who would've thunk it?
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Rick Santorum is a Catholic, but the Evangelicals have adopted him because of his nutty ideas and statements. Here are some of his quotes:

In every society, the definition of marriage has not ever to my knowledge included homosexuality. That’s not to pick on homosexuality. It’s not, you know, man on child, man on dog, or whatever the case may be.” 2003, speaking to a reporter.

"One of the things I will talk about, that no president has talked about before, is I think the dangers of contraception in this country....

"President Obama wants everybody in America to go to college. What a snob ... Oh, I understand why he wants you to go to college. He wants to remake you in his image.”

“Earlier in my political career, I had the opportunity to read the speech, and I almost threw up.” –Rick Santorum, on JFK's 1960 speech about the importance of separation of church and state (October 2011)

There's just a sample from Rick...or is it...Dick?
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that was a very disingenuous comment to that reporter in 2003, because he has OFTEN compared gay people to humans having sex with various animals, and has also often said that gay people are mostly pedophiles
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that was a very disingenuous comment to that reporter in 2003, because he has OFTEN compared gay people to humans having sex with various animals, and has also often said that gay people are mostly pedophiles
Yep, he is a total piece of shit.

Didnt gay men adopt his name to describe something really gross?
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Yep, he is a total piece of shit.

Didnt gay men adopt his name to describe something really gross?
Santorum is just another fundie menace hypocrite.
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Yep, he is a total piece of shit.

Didnt gay men adopt his name to describe something really gross?
heh heh - well, not 'gay men' - gay activist and columnist (who I often disagree with) Dan Savage defined "santorum" as "the frothy mixture of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex". He created a web site, spreadingsantorum.com (and santorum.com), to promote the definition, which became a top internet search result, displacing the senator's official website on many search engines, including Google, Yahoo! Search, and Bing. Santorum attempted to get the search engine to remove it and they all refused.
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There is direct correlation between single family households and crime. The majority of single parent households the parent is a woman. Also a majority of these school shooters came from single family homes.

These leftists keep crying "guns!!! Guns!!! Guns!!" But do not wish to try and find what is behind these issues. Guns are an inanimate object. A tool. There is a reason why this happens. Now, is it because they are a product of the single mother plague? No. I do not believe that is the only thing driving these murderers but i do think that it is a problem that should be addresses. To just dismiss it is unwise just as the gun grabbers do not wish to look at the fact that the majority (if not all) are on some sort 9f prescription drugs like SSRIs
How do you explain the statistic, that 100% of school shooters used guns?
Is that just coincidence?
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