The Seven Deadly Sins

Dec 2015
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Pride. Envy. Wrath, Gluttony and Lust. Sloth and Greed. The seven deadly sins.

Let's face it. They're all bad....some are possibly more understandable than others, but the one I hate the most is greed. Here's my story:
I think some of you read something I posted a few weeks ago about having to put my 93 year old Daddy in assisted living, which we did. It wasn't fun, but he was having mobility issues and needed assistance with meals, medications, etc. He actually made the decision on his own and we were delighted that he made the choice. Mr. Clara and I got him moved in 3 weeks ago and he immediately went downhill--quickly. My dad, Jim, passed away on Sunday evening at the local hospital.
While he was in assisted living (which is a lovely place) we noticed some of his things were disappearing--just small stuff like a new tube of toothpaste, a throw pillow, his little Easter basket candy, etc. We informed the director. Still it's disappointing, right? But, nothing of value was taken.
Since Sunday we have been wrapped up in all the arrangements for his funeral, burial, estate, home, car. Those of you who have been through this will understand how overwhelming it is. Today we were working in his garage, cleaning, throwing, organizing.....getting ready for an estate sale.
Suddenly the whole neighborhood (some complete strangers) were stopping by asking for stuff. HUH?? It started with the next door neighbor wondering if they could have a couple of his card tables. Then another neighbor wondered if we were getting rid of his bed. Another wondered about his tools. This went on all morning. Now, I have to admit, I'm a bit teary and obviously grieving, but MAN I WAS SO ticked off. Not one offered to pay....or asked when the estate sale would be. My dad's home is in a nice neighborhood. We're not talking trashy or poor. Middle class ranch style homes--nice cars--friendly people. These folks are NOT needy in any sense of the word. So.......
Is this greed? Am I being too sensitive? I would appreciate your thoughts.
 
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Dec 2006
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You are not being greedy and you're not being overly sensitive.

The people who are ASKING for your deceased father's belongings are common and coarse and vulgar and have absolutely no sense of what is appropriate.

First, you never ask ANYBODY for their things. Secondly, you CERTAINLY never ask anybody for their deceased parent's belongings. My god, the things they're asking for might have great sentimental or memory value to you - they dont know - maybe those tools were purchased to build your baby crib.

Their actions were inexcusable and you have every right to tell them to fuck off and come to the sale if they want something.
 
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some people take all they can get. Stay away from them. Seems to me your father was living with scumbags in his neighbourhood but didn't know it.
 
Dec 2014
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Pride. Envy. Wrath, Gluttony and Lust. Sloth and Greed. The seven deadly sins.

Let's face it. They're all bad....some are possibly more understandable than others, but the one I hate the most is greed. Here's my story:
I think some of you read something I posted a few weeks ago about having to put my 93 year old Daddy in assisted living, which we did. It wasn't fun, but he was having mobility issues and needed assistance with meals, medications, etc. He actually made the decision on his own and we were delighted that he made the choice. Mr. Clara and I got him moved in 3 weeks ago and he immediately went downhill--quickly. My dad, Jim, passed away on Sunday evening at the local hospital.
While he was in assisted living (which is a lovely place) we noticed some of his things were disappearing--just small stuff like a new tube of toothpaste, a throw pillow, his little Easter basket candy, etc. We informed the director. Still it's disappointing, right? But, nothing of value was taken.
Since Sunday we have been wrapped up in all the arrangements for his funeral, burial, estate, home, car. Those of you who have been through this will understand how overwhelming it is. Today we were working in his garage, cleaning, throwing, organizing.....getting ready for an estate sale.
Suddenly the whole neighborhood (some complete strangers) were stopping by asking for stuff. HUH?? It started with the next door neighbor wondering if they could have a couple of his card tables. Then another neighbor wondered if we were getting rid of his bed. Another wondered about his tools. This went on all morning. Now, I have to admit, I'm a bit teary and obviously grieving, but MAN I WAS SO ticked off. Not one offered to pay....or asked when the estate sale would be. My dad's home is in a nice neighborhood. We're not talking trashy or poor. Middle class ranch style homes--nice cars--friendly people. These folks are NOT needy in any sense of the word. So.......
Is this greed? Am I being too sensitive? I would appreciate your thoughts.
People can be assholes.
Condolences on your loss.
 
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imaginethat

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Oct 2010
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Your story borders on the unbelievable. As a blanket "forgiveness" rationale, I often think "People are people. What else can we expect?"

I might have exploded.

Your Dad must've been ready to let it go. My Dad made it to 93 too. That's a long life, 93 years.
 
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Nov 2012
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Greed is bad. I think envy is the one that has burned me the most. Greed I can understand, but I have a hard time finding envy within myself, making it harder for me to understand and/or forgive in others.